Recipe For A Strong Relationship
A healthy relationship is like cooking. Don’t believe me? Picture this: You are making Chicken Parmesan. The three base ingredients to make this classic dish are chicken, parmesan cheese, and tomato sauce. If you try to substitute chicken for salmon or tomato sauce for salsa, you won’t get the dish you were looking to make. In your relationship, just like in cooking this amazing dish, if you try to substitute trust, commitment, or vulnerability for anything else, your relationship will not turn out as strong as you hoped it would be. Here at Official, we are all about making sure that your relationship is as strong as it can be, and that means using the right ingredients.
So what are the makings for a successful relationship? Here are the three base ingredients that you and your partner need to remain happy and healthy:
The first ingredient for a strong relationship is trust. According to the Psych Central blog, “trust allows a couple to know that their partner is there for them, truly cares about them, is coming from a good place, and supports them.” If there is no trust within the union, then there is no need for the relationship to continue. Both partners want to feel heard and safe. If this is not happening, you may need to evaluate your relationship together to figure out why there is a lack of trust. It is best to talk things out with your partner when things are fresh. If the conversation gets heated, don’t be afraid to take a breather. Whatever you choose, remember, don’t go to bed angry.
The second ingredient for a strong relationship is commitment. When you are dedicated to your partner, you are saying, “we’re in this together no matter what.” To keep the commitment going long term, you and your partner can plan times to gain a better understanding of one another. This can include, going on dates and planning activities that you haven’t done with anyone else. If you need help with planning, slide over to the Official app to get date ideas, and don’t forget to share your experience.
The third and final ingredient for a strong relationship is vulnerability. “Being vulnerable includes sharing your feelings, not your thoughts.” Personally, this is one that I struggle with in my own relationship. Being vulnerable can be challenging for some, but it is important to share feelings to eliminate any miscommunication that could result when you leave your partner guessing how you are feeling. Try your best to be open and transparent with your partner as much as possible. Of course, there is always time for fun and games, but be sure to give the same amount of energy when the conversation becomes more serious. If you’re not willing to be vulnerable, then your partner will have a hard time trusting you. Remember, trust is the number one ingredient.
Building a strong relationship is not as hard as it seems. As long as you follow these steps, you and your partner will be on your way to not only becoming a stronger couple, but you will also remain official.
Long-distance relationships can seem scary, especially after hearing all of the horror stories. Being in a long-distance relationship of my own, finding a way to keep the spark going can seem hard to do at first, but it is possible. It just takes a little extra consideration and work.
So where do you even begin? Here are a few tips you can use to keep you and your partner close even though you are far away.
When you started dating your partner, you may have come up with a list of questions to ask on your date to make sure that they are worth your time. They may have included ones like “Where do you work?”, “Where do you see yourself in five years?”, or even “Do you see yourself getting married and having kids someday?” These questions, although helpful in getting to know your potential partner, are also helpful to continue during your relationship.
This does not mean asking the usual questions like “How was your day?” or even “What’s on the menu for dinner?” They are just too mundane for 20 questions. You must be strategic. Even asking questions like, “If we were together, where would you want to go on a date?”, can be helpful to start thinking about your similar interests in trying something new or remembering the things you love to do with your partner. (Official, of course, can help you out with planning those future dates.) It’s all about getting to know your partner better because let’s face it, there is always something new to learn every day.
If you need help coming up with questions, check out Gottman Card Decks. Trust me, they’re helpful.
Send Your Scent
Now, this does mean go and buy a bottle of Erika Badu’s pussy fresh incense that sold out like wildfire in a matter of hours last year. Not unless that’s your thing. No judgment here.
Rather, the fragrance that I am referring to is the scent that helps your partner have a reminder of you when they are having a hard time sleeping or just because they miss you. You can either exchange perfumes or colognes or spray your scent onto a piece of clothing that you have worn before. It may sound weird at first, but your partner will enjoy remembering your smell. Trust me, it works.
Plan Workout Sessions
Becoming a couch potato can be very easy to do, especially during the pandemic when there is barely anything to do. If you’re like me, working out by yourself can become a little boring. Staying active with your partner can honestly make it easier to get behind. Apps like My Fitness Pal not only help you to keep track of your fitness goals but also encourage your partner to meet theirs.
Try Out Netflix Party!
Just like a normal movie date night, you and your partner can pick any movie of your choice. When you use Netflix Party, you and your partner will have the ability to use the apps text chat, but you can opt to talk on the phone or use any other platform that will allow you to watch the newest movies or TV shows and connect.
If watching movies or tv shows together isn’t possible due to your conflicting schedules, especially if you share the same account, you can still make this work. Just inform your partner when you have finished it so that they can go and do the same. Afterward, you can set up a time to talk about your thoughts, both good and bad.
Don’t Forget About Intimacy
The hardest part about long-distance relationships is not being able to touch your partner whenever or however you want. This, however, can be a time when you can get more clarity from your partner about their sexual needs and expectations for when you do meet up in person again. Keeping the spice alive can be anywhere from sexting to full-on video chat sessions.
Before you do anything with your partner, make sure to have a conversation with them about boundaries and ensure that you trust them enough with this sensitive content. Remember, the internet lasts forever.
I know, firsthand, how hard it can be to not have your partner close by. Although you are apart, there is always something you can do to make sure that the time you spend together remains fun and exciting. Anything is possible when you become official.
Get to know: Emilia Rivera
My name is Emilia and I am one of the Blog writers here at Official. Ever since I was a little girl, I have loved everything about words from the stories it creates to the alternate universe escape.